“Heart” Decisions


Two words – Gut Feel. Others can call it intuition, instinct or just simply “feeling”.

Three weeks ago, I decided to cut my hair short. The reason: I just felt like cutting it short. I do not really care how people would react to my new hair. I like it, and if they don’t, why bother?


You see, that’s the thing – we are living in a conservative country and until today, we still literally care what other people would say about how we should look like and how we should behave in this society. Our decisions are 10% owned and 90% solicited. We have been trained to always use our head in making our decisions because our heart have a known reputation of always doing the wrong things.

In the professional world especially in engineering, we make our decisions accurate, calculated and facts-based, which we should because otherwise we’ll lose our jobs and cost our company a good sum if we don’t. But for everything else, it doesn’t hurt to listen to our heart once in a while.

I married a man not knowing if he is the ideal man to marry. Heck, I don’t even have a picture of one. But my heart told me that he is the right man to be with for the rest of my life. I left my previous job despite being promised of a promotion and chose another company without even knowing how its industry works because during that time it felt like it was the right thing to do.

What about you, when was the last time you ever listened to what you feel? If you want to re-invent your image, then give it a try. You may always change it again and again because you felt it so and not because other people dictated you so. If you feel like marrying the girl (or boy) of your dreams, do it. If you are gonna wait until you’ve earned a million pesos and bought yourself a new house before you do it, then you might just probably be too late. Over-thinking does not lead you anywhere, but regrets leave a mark for the rest of your life.

All I’m saying is life is too short to live it in borders, to live it in everyone else’s eyes. So believe in yourself a bit more and trust in your ability to decide. Trust your heart. It may not be right all the times, but hey, so is your head. They say and I quote, “ The measure of success is by how happy you are.”. So ask yourself, “Are you happy?”, “How happy are you with your decisions?”